If ye love me’ …
The best piece of marriage advice.
What is the best piece of marriage advice you’ve been given – or have discovered in your own relationship?
Tyler Ward asked me this question after I downloaded his ‘Marriage Hacks: 25 ways to make love last.’ I’ve read through half of the book and come across some great tips; I recommend that you get your own copy. And if you have any thoughts on the topic, please share in the comments.
I am delighted that Tyler asked me what I thought. I am a bit of a sucker for tradition, loyalty and consistency myself and after practicing for 39 years with variable results I’ve gone to babes and little children for advice and come back with the following answer.
How to describe love
One of the nicest ways I’ve heard love describe was by a little child. When the seven year old was asked what she thought love was all about, she wrinkled her nose and stated with authority that, ‘Love is when your name is safe in someone’s mouth.’
Love is when your name is safe in someone’s mouth
I’ll definitely go with that one and will do my very best to keep everyone’s name safe in my mouth. Without a doubt that is what Jesus meant when he reiterated His Fathers Word and said that we are to, love each other and not to speak idle words or call anyone a fool.
To get a better handle on the whole loving and relationship thing I decided to find out more in-depth what our Creator and His Son have to say about love.
Love each other
Jesus taught us in many different ways what love was all about. Jesus told us not to say bad things about each other and He repeated his Father’s Word when He stated that we are to love others ‘as ourselves.’
Jesus personified love. He said, Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends and Jesus proceeded to do just that when he sacrificed his life for the sake of others. Jesus didn’t just tell us what to do, he showed us in action and then invited us to follow Him.
If ye love me …
Did Jesus tell us what love is?
Yes, He did.
He told us that we shall recognise his disciples by the love they have for each other. And he spelled out for us what we are to do if we want to follow him, if ye love me keep my commandments. This makes it rather easy to detect fakes.
Jesus told all the lawless ones to stay away from him. After Jesus died, his first hand Peter assured Jesus three times in a row that he loved Him. To which Jesus responded, feed my lambs and sheep and follow me. When we follow Jesus we’re expected to walk as he walked.
Did Jesus say that just faith and believing in Him will do?
God is love
The bible tells us that God is love and that we either love God or we love the world. But to love both at the same time is not possible. If you love the world you cannot love God and if you love God you cannot love the world. This is according to scripture.
It’s the same with our life. Jesus says that those who love their life will lose it and those who hate their lives will keep it unto life eternal. Hating your life is fine. Hating your brother/sister however will get you in BIG trouble.
God made me to laugh.
When I read those lines, my life started to make sense to me for the first time ever. And once more God made me to laugh! Hahaha, much as I tried to love all the perks of a charmed life, it just didn’t do it for me. How is it possible to love wealth and riches when there is so much unresolved poverty and suffering all around us? Guess who run in rat races? You are very welcome to the bonuses of privileged lifestyles. It just doesn’t do it for me.
God’s Word however I love with a passion, His Son; I’m head over the heels. Hahaha, too good!
So what is the love of God?
According to scripture the love of God is this; that we keep his commandments and there is nothing terrible about His commandments.
What is love?
The bible is very clear about what love is. It tells us that, This is love, that we walk after his commandments. This is the commandment, that, as ye have heard from the beginning, ye should walk in it.
The best piece of marriage advice?
One of my wannabe partners told me, ‘I Could Be So Good For You, love ya like you want me to’ and he certainly made a good attempt. Another told me, Love is doing the dishes. I did all dishes always, by hand and the cooking also; it didn’t keep our marriage together. On reflection maybe we should have gone out more for meals or maybe I should buy myself a dishwasher and get together with a cook next time around. On occasion I still play and listen to both the songs though and think they’re pretty sweet tunes and lyrics.
Here’s my answer Tyler.
So here’s my answer to your question Tyler with regards to the best piece of marriage advice. Marriage is all about love, as is every relationship I’ve ever been involved in. What is love? Love is being good to each other according to the directions given to us by our Creator. Quite straightforward really, a child and anyone with a sincere heart can do it.
The Commandments sum up how we are to love.
It is pretty simple, the Commandments sum up how we are to love.
Our name is safe in the mouth of those who love us because loving people don’t lie, kill, hate, steal, covet and so on.
The Commandments done away with? Not by those who follow the Father and His Son in earnest. Maybe by the holier than thou’s and the lawless ones. And we all know what The Father and Jesus had to say about them.
God knows our heart.
God knows our heart and love is love regardless of colour, country or creed and keeping people’s name safe in our mouth is a good start.
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re-blogged and adapted with permission from thelordspub Posted: 23 Mar 2012 04:54 AM PDT